RECEDE A weed grows in my garden nothing else just a weed It looks pretty in the morning fairy like almost freed It shows me where I haven’t tended neglected not paid heed It grows despite my indifference unnurtured what if I concede? I walk over and stand next to it grateful for its seed The garden is not lost I can let it grow if I recede [...]
We like to have a certain control over our lives. That’s why we plan, make to do lists, create projects. Everything in our society is set to reduce uncertainty. The pandemic brought a certain shift in that. We realised that control is really very flimsy and that we have no grip at all on anything. Slowing down, waiting, not knowing, postponing, patience. These don’t sit well in our busy and fast paced lives. But worrying, pushing and pulling and controlling do not prevent chaos and disaster. Ev [...]
Remember that I introduced you to the Life Wheel a while back? It's a worksheet that helps you identify where you stand in all areas of life and where you might need some work. If not, you can download it here. Today I want to introduce you to a different kind of wheel: the Circle of Self-Care. Your circle of self-care is basically the foundation of your life. The different elements all contribute to your happiness, balance and overall wellbeing. There are different slices to the Self-care pie: [...]
When I ask people "What do you love about yourself?" or "What is it that makes you worthy to be loved?" I usually get either of two reactions: stunned silence, followed by by a look that says 'what do you mean?', followed by an uttered 'uh', followed by hesitation, followed by all sorts of emotions (sometimes accompanied by tears) people tell me about something they DO or have achieved or accomplished. They tell me about some 'thing' they are 'good at' or 'proud of'. Of course these are valid an [...]